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“Recently, I dated this guy. Right before we broke up, he started acting odd. Distant. Less affectionate. He initially told me he was going through a lot mentally: issues with work, his car, his baby mama. He wanted to change his living situation. He was overwhelmed, but he insisted that he still absolutely adored me and that I was an absolute angel and a constant source of peace in his life. Okay. Fine. He continued pulling back. My gut was telling me something was just absolutely not right. There was something missing.”
“His baby mama blew him up at one point, and I overheard her say something along the lines of, ‘This is a betrayal of trust.’ When questioned about it, he tried saying it was just because he texted a female friend, consoling her because she lost her mom. My alarm bells were going off.
Why is your baby mama upset about that? Why is that considered a betrayal of trust? There’s no way this is just her ‘being crazy’ because this woman was perfectly fine with us dating and has been nothing but a sweetheart to me, but suddenly, she was up in arms over him doing something as innocent as consoling a friend who lost her mom.
Anyway, I finally asked him if things were really okay between him and me. He tells me that he just thinks things aren’t stable enough for him to have a relationship at the moment and that he doesn’t have the mental energy to give me the attention I deserve. Fine. We leave it amicable and go our separate ways.
I still had a feeling in my stomach. Something wasn’t right. Right before he started acting weird, he told me that he had wanted to be with me for a very long time, that he thought we were perfect together, and that he loved me. If you love someone and you’re that serious about them, I’d think that even if you’re going through tough times, you’d lean on them or want them around, right?
Less than a month later, guess what? I found out that the girl he was consoling was indeed his new girlfriend.”